Hi littlemama,
Don't worry there is heaps of us, ahem, mature ladies out there!

I'm 38, as is my partner, we are just commencing our first ivf cycle after TTC since jan 09. I am unsure how my body will respond with follicles etc so it appears it really is a test run the first time. Don't lose hope yet, it sounds like plenty of people don't have success initially and then things improve with some fine tuning.

Also, don't be afraid to seek a second opinion if your FS is saying there's no hope, I know someone who was told that and went to another FS after many years and now has a baby!

There is a forum for older women who are trying to conceive, it is in the Conception section under 'forum buddies', maybe you will feel comfortable there? I can't really offer any advice other than that I have found this forum extremely helpful and supportive, to get you through the ups and downs that TTC brings

Good luck and stay positive!