Being entirely honest (as requested!) I would be asking your FS for their opinion. Age isn't the determination of success on it's own, nor is how any of us have responded on our 1st, 2nd or 8th attempts, but rather how you react personally to drugs and the quality of your eggs. I always recommend my friends get a second opinion if they aren't happy with what their FS has said in order to get an idea of % of success - as everyone on here has said it's really a matter of luck and numbers, and your age is certainly a factor to be considered, but your FS is the best person to give an idea. IVF is really like playing deal or no deal and guessing what's in each case - you really never know, but maybe your FS can give you an idea of how many attempts is feasible before you can decide that you have given it your best shot so that you won't regret not having tried
Hi now were 3! Like the others said no one can give you the answers its got to be the right decision for you and your DH. Your right you are very blessed to have a little boy but if you dont feel complete then why not give it a few goes?
Im 24 and my DH is 25 we have been trying to concieve for 2 years (1 year IVF) we have done 2 STIM cycles, 3 FET so in total 5 transfers and we are currently doing our 3rd STIM cycle now, im at that point where i just want one baby of our own but i too think that i will want number 2 after i have 1, my DH and i agreed we would try for number 2 for a few cycles and if it dosnt work out we will give up and be happy with 1 miracle. I dont think age is the key to how long it will take to work because DH and I are young and i keep getting "why are you putting 2 basties back at such a young age" from my nurses and im sick of it, i believe it comes down to the infertility problem. I hope this helps and i hope you find your answer xxxxx
Last edited by oneday86; January 18th, 2011 at 05:15 AM.
Like the other ladies have said noone can really tell you whether you should or shouldn't, but wow what a hard decision for you.
We took two years (three fresh (one OHSS freezeall) and two failed FETs) before we conceived our beautiful DS. To be honest the whole process nearly destroyed me and by the time DS came along I had so little left in reserves that I suffered PND for the first six months.
Having got past that and lived the last year loving every minute of being a little family of three, DH and I decided to try again for our second, assuming it would take just as long. We were so very lucky in that we had success with our first FET, an embie from the same cycle as DS.
What I found was that until I went back for treatment when DS was about 15 months old, life felt perfect. But then when I went back all the stress and worry and stigma of "infertility" came back onto my shoulders, and I coped with it far worse than I did the first time around. To be perfectly honest if we hadn't been successful so quickly I'm not sure I would have been able to keep going, but then I would have been in the horrible position of never knowing whether I did the right thing by stopping.
I guess what I'm trying to say to you is that you have a beautiful little family now, and if you think you will be able to give it a few (or however many) more tries, accepting that it may not work, and be happy with that, then I think you are in a good place to go back and try again. This is especially so if you think you will regret it if you don't go back to try again.
But if you think that if you were "reopen that IVF door" and be unsuccessful (and of course with anyone that risk is there) that it will cause you greater pain down the track, and take away from what you have already been blessed with then it is a far harder decision.
I also agree with Lairdoz - your FS is well placed to give you an opinion.
I hope what I've said makes sense and that I wasn't too honest. I wish you so much luck with making a very tough decision.
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