Thank you ladies, its good to know that that it was not just us then. Ive practically had to drag my partner there after about two years of persuasion and I certainly heard about it from him the way the appointment panned out. I feel a little better about our appointment now and I will be able to assure him that it is just how they work and the next one will be more informative.
I did take a list of questions to ask but it didnt feel right given the way the appointment went. Ill definitely take them with me for our 2nd appointment.

I've already had a little experience with one of the lovely nurses already being that we had made our first nurses appointment for the following day thinking that it would save us a trip, but as the Dr was not ready to make a plan for us he asked us to postpone it. The nurse was very accomodating. I felt silly, like we had jumped the gun, but really was trying to kill two birds with the one stone. The nurse was very understanding and allowed us to make another appointment with her after our next FS appointment and pulled a few strings to get the semen analasis done on such short notice. Was very impressed with that

Thanks again ladies. I am so glad I came accross this forum. I had been stalking anyone I knew who had IVF done but its sometimes awkward especially when my partner doesnt want anyone to know what we are doing. ( I think he is embarrassed) So i have been sworn to secrecy otherwise he wont do it. Very hard considering i am a bit of a talker.