Hi danyelle,

a break sounds really good. I am sure you wil get your BFP in time, but I really think its a numbers game.

we all 'know' that a young, fertile couple DTD regularly still has only approximately a 20% chance of getting pregnant (ie implanting) in each cycle. Its in every book, and we remind ourselves of this continuously. And thats in couples who do actually achieve fertislisation each cycle too!

when we are on IVF of course we know that there is an embryo 'up' and while a BFN is bad enough, a 'chemical' pregnancy (shocking word) feels worse b/c it feels like we have lost our baby.

But when you look at the numbers with my two fresh cycles. In total I had 8 eggs fertilise to become embryos. Of those 8, one stopped developing a day or two in, leaving 7/8.

One did not survive the thaw, leaving 6/8. One survived the thaw but did not continue to develop, leaving 5/8.

Ok so we have 5/8 embryos that are 'semi good' (ie good enough to survive a thaw, or to continue developing). Of 5/8 that have been transferred (two lts of two, and one single), we have had three implantations (the chemical, plus my son, plus current burrowing bean). Of these, two have been strong enough to get past the TWW test.

SO that is 2/8 or 1/4 or very very close to the 20% in 'natural' pregnancy. Of course there is no guarantee that my current BB will continue, but I pray to the universe every night....

So I guess what I am trying to (clumsily) say, is that you WILL get there, although it will take time. You have a proven track record of carrying babies, so any issues with lack of implantation are the individual embryos, and no reflection on FUTURE embryos. It only takes ONE!

You stay positive and keep on chugging my friend!