A gf of mine that I have known for a very long time now has just begun her journey to conception. She has had a history of severe endo. They told her when she was 16 that she would never be a mother. In the last few years she has had lotsa surgury to help her condition and make her more comfortable. As an offshoot she found out that there is nothing wrong with her uterus, but that her tubes are fused. She also has been told that her ovaries should be able to produce eggs.

Yesterday she found out that her journey to motherhood was unsuccessful this time. She had one egg put back after only producing 2 embryo's this cycle. She is holding it together, but I know she is hurting, who wouldn't be really.

I on the other hand am pregnant with my third (one m/c) and am 25 weeks tomorrow. I have conceived first time, every time, with the exception of this pregnancy where it took 2 months after the m/c to fall pregnant again. We are so poles apart that I just don't want to say the wrong thing. I also have a foot in mouth disease sometimes and I am terrified that I will say something that will hurt her. So I just wanted to know from the girls who really do know what it is like, what not to say, and what might be helpful. I figure that I will try to listen as much as I can, as we have arranged to have dinner with them this weekend. I just love her so much that I wish that there was something that I could do. I have often thought that if she had tried everything that was possible and still wasn't able to carry a baby, that I would offer to surrogate for her, but I would never tell her that until it was obvious that she needed my help, cos the last thing I want her to think is that I don't believe that she can carry her own baby for herself. I just really want her to succeed, and get pregnant.

In the meantime, do you girls have any advice on the do's and don'ts of talking with an IVF and LTTTC mumma? She has tried for 12 months prior to the IVF to conceive naturally even tho they thought it was probably not possible that way.....

Thanks ladies
XX Bella