Hi Lisa. I know what you mean about the difference between men and women. We've changed tactics slightly. When we first started having fertility issues, we told no one at all. Eventually I snapped and told a very old friend to whom I write regularly who doesn't really know any other friends and therefore quite certain that our 'secret' would be safe.

With my first IUI, I got pregnant and told some people, then had a miscarriage and told them too. So, our 'trying' became rather out in the open. Now three people and my Mum know that we are having assisted conception and when my tests are and so on but I don't discuss the source of the problem with them, I just tell them it's unexplained.

There are strong arguments for telling people (such a burden off your mind to discuss it, esp if you want to more than him) and against (more people hassling you every time you have a test or a deadline). The one thing I know for certain is that BB helps a great deal - whether it's asking silly questions that you dont' really want to ring up your FS about or finding the answers to "is it normal" questions. So whatever you decide, stick around here and at least you know you are not on your own.

Good luck