Hi Aussie Jo

I just wanted to support what the other girls said. This ivf business is full of unexpected twists and turns, many of them disappointing but hopefully with a big reward at the end. My partner and I were "unexplained" at first. Told to go away and keep trying. Then (after some different sperm tests), they told us DH's sperm wouldn't fertilise eggs and that we would need ICSI. I was devastated about needing IVF. However, just as we started, I found out I was pregnant, naturally. Then it turned out to be ectopic - so unfair and meant I had to wait 4 months before trying again. They also decided it couldnt be a problem with his sperm (because I had been pregnant) but maybe it was my tubes (hence the ectopic). Again, ivf was the answer. So we tried and after 4 unsuccessful IVF attempts, I had a laparoscopy. Turns out my tubes are fine but I have endometriosis and submucosal fibroids. So they said that was probably the answer and if we treated it, it would all be ok. another operation and 2 more months of not trying. Then, after another 4 cycles I'm still not pregnant so it looks like that was wrong as well. What I've learned is that the finishing line often moves.

But on the bright side, each stim cycle is different. I had one cycle where out of 14 eggs, only one made it to day 2. No reason for this, just a bad cycle. The next month I had 14 eggs, 10 fertilised, 7 were fantastic (grade 1 or 2). I did exactly the same protocol as the bad cycle. Didn't change a thing. One bad cycle doesnt mean they will all be bad, hopefully you will be luckier next time.