I have to agree with MyTurn, it is very scary at first but I ended up looking forward to the routine because it helped make each week go faster knowing i had needles to take and scans to attend, and to be honest as scary as it seams it ended up being an easier process than I thought thanks to both the support of my clinic and the support of the lovely ladies in these threads. Best of luck.
Appleisle, the comparison between ttc without help (and failing, failing, failing every month) and ttc with assistance is really hard to make. TTC without help starts to feel kind of pointless, when the chances of success are so tiny, whereas AC gave us real, genuine hope again, which was much easier to face. The extra investment of time, money, pain, means that the emotions of going through AC are massive, but for us, who also had MFI only, are so, so worth it - we had a successful first cycle, DS is 10 months old and we are now looking at ttc #2.
It would have been 10 times harder without the support of the girls on the AC and LTTTC threads.
Thank you so much everyone. Wow, I can see already how much support this would be. I am a bit confused about where to post things and the acronyms, I will have to google them all I think I am not very techy!!
Did or do other people fear the whole "what if it works" and then you miscarry? I just had a friend go through IVF and miscarry at 9 weeks. Is it more likely to happen through IVF. Again I apologise if it's not okay to ask these questions or if it makes others worry, I guess I am just trying to reach out for support with all of these crazy anxieties!! Somehow I have it in my head that if pregnancy happens "naturally" then there is less chance of miscarrying. And hey, we AREN'T even pregnant yet!!! I do know that I would regret not going down IVF in the future as I'd like to do all we can to have a baby.
My understanding is that there is a very slight increased chance of miscarrying with IVF, but when you consider that everyone who has IVF has some kind of problem conceiving and or carrying to term, it's amazing that the increase is only slight. Also, because in IVF, the dates of possible conception are very certain, it means people get a blood test exactly on the earliest definite day that a BFP (Big Fat Positive) will be picked up, and that is a fair bit sooner than many people. That means that the really early miscarriages are picked up in IVF mummies, whereas with non-IVF mummies who get their blood tests a little later, some of them may just have 'had their period come late' and not even know that it was in fact a m/c. \So that boosts the 'chance of M/c' in IVF as well.
It's totally fine to ask these questions. In fact, I think most of us ask questions or tell our stories here in these forums that we have trouble speaking of in real life
If m/c does happen to you, you are still not alone. There is also excellent support in other threads for m/c and stillbirth. As you might see from my ticker, I was originally carrying twins, and one of them didn't make it. Not technically a m/c, cos I didn't lose anything vaginally, but a case of what they call vanishing twin. Emotionally, I still lost a baby that was very much loved and wanted.
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