Hi Charlotte
everything you feel is perfectly normal m'dear. This is my take on it.
1. everyone handles the TTC and IVF journey differently, it depends on many factors including your personality, your partners' personality, how the drugs affect you, how much of an impact it has on your worklife/homelife/sociallife, if people around you know you're doing it or you choose not to tell them etc etc etc

2. a lot of people on the forums compliment their partners on how supportive they are, but noone's perfect and even my DH who I'm very lucky to have, totally p***es me off sometimes!

3. it's such an INTENSE experience that I find particularly allconsuming a lot of the time, no matter if I'm stimming or not. If I'm in a cycle, so far I've been lucky to not really be affected much by any of the drugs...but occasionally - inc. today! I've had to warn DH that I'm feeling grouchy and to just be careful with me.
If I'm not in a cycle (ie. inbetween)...I'm wishing my life away till my next cycle, getting upset by the latest 'good news' someone's told me re. someone 'expecting', watching a film/tv show, reading a book that involves preganancy and birth somewhere (even in the flipping children's animation UP! there was reference to infertility!!!!) However I know a lot of people on here suffer badly with side effects, which must make this period of our life even harder. SO YES, we go through way more than our partners, both physically, emotionally and mentally.

4. Since starting IVF I found I was more relaxed in the sense that someone else had a plan that I just had to follow. (I like plans!) However...I'm still nervous at time of EPU and ET...I think that's healthy.

I'm not sure if the above will help you feel better at all, but I'm just trying to say, you're not alone...you're perfectly normal, so is your DH and all of his feelings. I think it's hard for the partners to fully comprehend the desperation that at times we all feel to one degree or another. I hope you feel better really soon