I am not really in the same position as we only have 4 children. Although I don't do pregnancy well and have had 3 complex births out of the 4. I could still have another 1 or 2 if I could get pregnant and DH felt the same way. I could nag DH and probably get my own way but what is stopping me and why I agree 4 is plenty is
1) we absolutely can not afford it without everyone making huge sacrifices (and the older kids don't get a choice but would miss out on a lot) and
2) DH has helped me achieve my dreams with my career, home, family etc so I feel its my time to help him achieve one of his which requires me to work a lot more then I have the last year and be in the position to contribute significantly to an investment loan.
Before I had my last baby a month ago I couldn't have reached that point and wanted another right or wrong. The decision now is much easier although its a little sad that all his firsts are now my lasts if that makes sense.
DH and I have 6 children. He brought three from a previous relationship (they have no contact with their biological mother - DH has sole parental custody), I brought two from previous marriage (who see their biological father every second weekend), and we had a baby together who is now 12 months.
DH works full time and I'm doing a PhD. It's busy. It's fun (mostly). We have done a good job of blending the families and all the kids have benefited in their own ways. It's so rewarding to build new parent-child relationships and watch them flourish. Its not always easy though. I would love to chat more about issues to large and blended families - seems pretty quiet in here though!! I'm guessing there's not too many of us?!
Re: Adding to an already BIG Blended Family!!
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