This has been a long time coming and its time. My 13 year old daughter and i have a very hot and cold relationship and i have been told teenagers a very much a had full but im really lost for ideas to fix this situation. My daugher as much as i love her is a spoilt brat and her behaviour reflects that i have really gone out of my way to help her ajust to a mixed family so i guess her being spoilt has a lot to do with me over compensating i to came from a family where i had a step mother and step sis and brothers and my father favoured them constantly it was the worst feeling in the world to know my father wanted the new family more than his own so when it happend to me i really made sure she never felt that way. As a result she is a spoilt brat and when she doesnt get her own way she make the whole family pay. Life with her at best is tough. When have fights she will through in my face that she hates it with me and would rather life with her father it kills it like a knife to the heart and i struggle to fight back the tears today she was a smarty to her step father i asked her if it was the right thing to do to be such a smarty she replies with a smart ass remake then it one i relpy so calm we dont apperciate the behaviour and grow up take care of responsabilites ( she couldnt find somthing) and stop acting like a spoit brat she looks me up and down another smart remark i tell her is she keeps it up there will be another term of punishment( no mob phone, internet, social life ect) and then it happend she thru what was in her hands at me i couldn t beleive it i said it time to for her to go to her fathers she tells me she has wanted it for so long to go and live there.
Her father lives in a caravan in back oh his mum and dads yard is single and when shes there she in the centre of his world she i guess that makes her happy becouse when she it here she has to share the attention with three 3 sisters.
Am i making the right choice my pride is hurt my daughter the one i give birth to raised for 13 years doesnt want to be with me my heart is aching and torn between letting her go or not is there any one out there i n the same situation ? what should i do ?
kath