Thanks for the help im in two minds on stay or go so is she.She asked if she will be back every other weekend i said yes but she would have to share the bedroom with her baby sister she wasnt to happy i said why should i let the room be empty to only have you have you stay in it 2 nights a fortnight baby sis could have the room then DH and i would have a room to ourselves first time in 5 years. I told her how much we love her and want her in our lives i told she would have to make some decisions becouse we are tired of her putting it to us all the time she want to be with us but also want to be with her father i bet its hard for her but she makes life hard for us too.
My last note to her was that her step dad was home on holidays renovating her room new walls paint aircon blinds the lot while her father is on holidays up the beach camping with friends and having a great old time. Parenting is no camping trip for us i think her father would think twice before she stays full time then guess who picks up those pieces???????
kath