Yeah, I agree with Tali. I sure EVERY teen with separated parents does this at some stage. My SDD came to live with us after deciding she didn't like her mums partner anymore, then she didn't like the fact I would not let her BF stay over when she lived with us, so she left to live with her grandparents (who totally overindulged her and gave her everything), but then she didn't like to be told what time to come home for dinner so she went to live with her BF and his parents....aahh it goes on.

In my time working with Families at Centrelink, I can tell you there are hundreds more that do this every week. I would be talking to upset mums on a weekly basis and most of the time they left because they don't get their own way. In about 90% of cases they were back at home within 3 weeks.
They all of a sudden realise that there isn't a washing machine fairy, mum cooks EVERY night (eg) and she's also good on the hugs. Most dads get a big shock having them full time and pull up quickly. No more 2nd weekend indulgences....

Good on you for standing fast, they can be very, very trying and girls can push VERY HARD.

Think about giving her a chance to prove she is growing up. I have done this inch by inch with my daughter - check out some of the other threads on how this has worked for me. I let my daughter have a say in her boundaries, but she also has responsibilities that match. She hasn't let me down once, but she is still pushing for more all the time.

DD also tried the "im moving to Dads or Grandads, but I had already spoken to the both of them and they told her that she needs to be with her mum right now. YAY for the multiple parenting.

If you Ex lives in a caravan I cant say she will like it on a long term basis, there wont be much privacy and they are all about 'having their own space'. I hope you can chat with your ex about things.

I also got a great councellor through a local teen program, she actually needed it when she had trouble coping with me losing a pregnancy, but this councelling had proved INVALUABLE when it comes to the both of us communicating. Sometimes she is a bit of an umpire.....but its working.

Please, please don't take too much blame or guilt on. I have several friends with long spaces between first and subsequent siblings, and the same troubles. Even if you worked had not to be overindulgent, they have been used to all the attention and the family having more money than now when you have more mouths to feed.

Welcome to the Teens forum!