thanks yael and thank you to your husband.... its a battle we are just not goin to win.....
kinda sux We looked at adoption 18mths ago but our solicitor told us it would cost between 10 and 15 grand and its just not the sort of money we have at them moment specially seen we are taking DP ex to court so we can see DstepS more and coz she wont agree to any extra time we have had to transfer it to the federial magistrate court and get hte whole family report done and so on and that is costing us just over the 10 grand mark and dat isnt including the money we paid for the last lot of court stuff we had to pay so we could see DstepS for 36 hours a fortnight

Its just crap.. i spose the next thing i can do is try and find DD father and dat aint gunna be a easy task as i dont know his name or where he is from

Ahwell once again Yael thanks so much for your help and your DH help its greatly appreciaited

Sarah