I did it, I told DD about her biological father

[Catastrophic]

Hun,
As much as you DH is doing an awesome job in raising her and bringing her up as his own (kudos to him for that) this really was a decision that had to be told xoxox Stay strong. It might be worth while getting your DD (& you and DH) to go see a counsellor all sort through your emotions with a trained professional, they really are valuable. xox

[Tuesday's Child]

I think everyone has pretty much said everything I would have said. You did the right thing hun. DH will come round - he just needs to make sure he doesn't treat DD any differently. Whether he's her bio dad or not doesn't really change the relationship they have. In time, both of them will realise that.

[kimmi]

Good on you. You won't regret it!

[Charlotte91]

My cousin found out at 9 that my uncle wasn't her father. Her real father had been sending her money and expensive gifts all her life and my uncles wife kept telling her it was all from a distant uncle. It was such a shock for her to find out that her 'uncle' was her father. She was angry at her parents lying to her.
She is now 15 and closer than ever to my uncle. She still calls him Dad and everything.

You've done the right thing.

[Sunny Love]

I believe, like all the others, that you've done the best thing for your daughter, and she is top priority. You've given her the truth, something that is ultimately quite powerful. DH isn't any less of a father because of biology, if anything, he over time has proven he can be a wonderful father to her. I'm sure time will allow all parties involved to 'swallow' this news, to adjust to the truth and to move forward healthily. I hope that things turn positive very soon, for everyone involved.
xx

[Cocolove]

Thank you for all your support, DH is ok now & can see the M is ok, yeah shes asking random questions as she thinks of them & thats ok i am answeing them all honestly, they are only small things like what would her last name have been if her dad wanted to see her and does she look like him etc, she knows im open and she wont get in trouble for any questions she asked.

DH came home last night and this morning M couldnt wait to see him even more than usual

As for DH & I thats another thread, the past couple of days have brought up some things which have been happening over the last month or so and im not sure where we are headed at the moment.

again, thanks for everyones love & support