Hun I can completely relate

What he said to you when you were on the fishing trip brought back a flood of memories from my days with my ex.

While he is not physically abusing you, the mental abuse he is making you suffer is just as bad, if not worse. He is manipulating you into thinking you are the one who is always in the wrong. That guilt you are feeling is his leash. Its his power and he knows it.

Bring out the warrior woman within yourself and defend yourself, stand up against him, be strong.

I can feel your hurt and I can feel your guilt - it rocks your core. He is doing that to you. It's nothing you have done.

This might be terrible advice - but I am only going off the horror I endured from a man that sounds very much the same as the man you have there.

Take the baby and run. You all deserve so much better.