My Mum's partner is awesome. I think she was in her early 50s when they met, he was in his late 60s. So his kids are much older than us (one of them just turned 50). We've met them once or twice but have nothing to do with them (not for a bad reason). My Dad died when I was 19, so Mum's DP is Grandpa. I asked him if it was ok (the kids wont have another Grandpa on my side), and he was honoured. In saying that, if they split up (they wont, they're awesome together), I think he'd drift away and probably wouldn't have much to do with him, not because we don't love him, just because it's not a blood connection.
My Mum's ex-DH (married around the time Dad died - they'd been split since I was a kid) had two kids closer to our age, one I was quite good friends with (went to the same school), but they weren't our brother and sister. I only have two brothers and we have the same parents.
Weird isn't it. Guess it would be different if they'd been together since we were little or if we'd lived together.
I was thinking of starting a thread about those who are step-children just the other day, weird timing!
My mum remarried when I was 13 and my step-dad kind of resented my siblings and I so we never really had a close relationship. He is awesome with kids though and he makes a fantastic Pop to my kids - they love him more than any of their grandparents! It warms my heart to see his affection for my kids, I would have loved to have been shown a little of that side of him when I was growing up with him.
As for step-siblings, I don't really have anything to do with my step brothers (there are three of them) now that we have all grown up. My step-sister is my age and we get a long well, but she lives 4 hours away so we don't see each other very often. It's hard trying to describe the step-family's relationships with the kids though!
I have such a strange family for my kids to grow up in lol! My Dad only wants my kids (and I) to call him by his first name, so I'm not sure if they have worked out that he is their Grandfather. Sorry kids!
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