Thankyou so much for your replies. My soon to be ex husband is finding the whole break up thing very hard as he already has a daughter from a previous marriage that he has very little contact with. Ex Hubby split with his first wife when his daughter was a yr old and she grew up with another man as her father and doesn't really consider my ex as her father, only when she wants money from him. I think he's worried that the same thing is going to happen with our daughter. I understand that because of his job he won't be able to have alot of contact with our daughter but I'm willing to cover the costs of her travelling to see him and want her to have a good relationship with her father. For the time being, although we're in the process of lodging our property settlement I am going to remain in the family home until xmas as if we are housemates so that my ex can enjoy watching our daughter milestones such as her first word, first steps etc. At the moment it's working as it also gives me a break from being a full time single mum. I never realised how hard it was going to be until I found myself on my own, lol. Thanks again for the replies.