Hi Suzanne and welcome!
I never found that I got any help at all! LOL, if you seem to be capable and able to take care of things, instead of helpless and whingy, no one thinks you could use a hand. Even if you've had major surgery, a husband who is gone quite a bit for work, and a premature baby, not to mention the other kids.
Also, with larger families, people think "ooh that's weird" so they back away.