Larger Families Chatter ~ September 2007 #2

**shazza** · September 13th, 2007, 03:49 PM

dani i wouldnt know what to do with a boy
storm it must be 12 yrolds mine is driving me crazy and shes saying im strict cause i wont let her get a fake tan omg what next shes 12
soul havent even thought about dinner probably meat and vegies again last night had a roast it was so yummy
oh i forgot about kat just wanted to say thanks for waht u said

**storm** · September 13th, 2007, 03:50 PM

Well I was looking for you for inspiration for dinner, but it is looking like it might have to be takeaway here, all my physical activities today have left me drained, roflmao, cooking is out of the question besides I am ovulating, so I need to save my left over energy for bonking........

Rofl Jes, 12 year olds HUH?Doncha just luv 'em

**gorgeous_lea** · September 13th, 2007, 04:05 PM

Were having a sausage casserole thingy for dinner tonight, i've ran out of potatoes to mash, do you all think rice is ok instead ?
I have 1 girl and 3 boys and would much prefer a girl, she was so much easier, but then the hormones havent quite kicked in yet, but close i would say

Doing nothing does tire you out Soul, weird that hey

**soul** · September 13th, 2007, 04:22 PM

well now I will have to have an easy dinner too because all this reaidng is just so damn tiring!

omg storm, pee myself laughing here, you could just say your having dh for desseert.

Sharon, they start early ha, you just got to keep on about who's the parent and who's the child. Let her know you will let her have anything she wants, when she hits 18 and can pay her own way and make all the decisions in life for herself. They think they are women of the world now, so when my 10 year old does this to me, I ask her can she pay all the bills, keep a roof over our head, buy her clothing, pay for her food ect ect, she says "No" then I say, the day you can do all that, you get everything you want till then, I choose, and we can either make this easy or do it the hard way, and you dont want to see me the hard way, so then gets off my back! Get on your soap box mamma, they can be drama queens, so can we!

**shazza** · September 13th, 2007, 04:52 PM

dont worry we had an argument in the car just before and she said to me that she wants to go away for a weeek she needs a break ha i say u think u needa break so do missy she said she would come home happier if she had a break .omg this 12 thing its like shes 18 all we do his fight its horrible.

**shazza** · September 13th, 2007, 06:29 PM

oh my god help guys i dont know whar to do shes saying she wants to kill herself and she wants to leave all we have been doing is yelling dh is at work all night maybe i should let her go to her nans so we both can calm down

**soul** · September 13th, 2007, 06:40 PM

Oh hon now that is not the norm thing to say, I think she shuld go to her nans and you get her into councelling or something. Get to the borom of hwy she is so angry, there is alot of anger there. Can you go into her room and just tell her how much you love her, and how much she means to you? Let her calm down in her room for a while, then try to talk to her.

**shazza** · September 13th, 2007, 07:35 PM

hey soul shes just gone to her nans for the night she did calm down
we did talk a little bit it sounds like two of her freinds are being a bit mean and at home lately all we have been doing is fighting so shes probably feeling horrible right now i remember highschool sometimes it is hard .its hard i forget what shes going through its so hard when youre got 4 girls going through different stages i dont know how some of yous guys do it with 6 .im trying to remember what i went through and i remember i wouldnt tell my mum anything well clarissa doing the same she will open up but only a little bit theres something going on shes angry all the time thanks guys that feels better when i write it down

**soul** · September 13th, 2007, 07:54 PM

Yeah I said she would have to be angry about something, could be some girls being really catty wth her at school, or a boy picking on her, kids can be so cruel. Hanna can be a bit like that in the way of not opening up, but she does eventually. I eman if she is saying she wants to kill herself that is a little more serious, and you should seek professional help I think.

**shazza** · September 13th, 2007, 08:07 PM

dont worry im going to i think shes only saying it i dont think she means it but u never do know and i dont want to leave it
im really worried about her
thanks soul for being here hun

**soul** · September 13th, 2007, 08:12 PM

I doubt she would do it either, they like to be dramatic! But might do her good to talk to someone if she wont you, she might talk to nan, just wait and see. I'm here for you babe, I know how hard it can be, I am going through it now with Chloe and she can be such a rude little cow, so smug to, I could smack her, but I dont she towers over me lmao! We just got to ride this teenage journey out with them. She is s beautuf; mannered girl, sweet to everyone else, just bloody rude to me and DH.

**shazza** · September 13th, 2007, 10:03 PM

i glad its just not mine then
its been so quiet without her its hard when all me and clarissa do is yell at each other the younger ones have to listen .hopefully when she comes back tommorow she will be happier

**soul** · September 14th, 2007, 03:30 PM

sharon how is it today?

**gorgeous_lea** · September 14th, 2007, 03:56 PM

Wow, it's so quiet in here today...

My kids have just gone to their dad's for the weekend, waiting for the next shift to arrive now ie. step kids !!! Never a dull moment around here lol

Hope everyone's had a good day

**soul** · September 14th, 2007, 04:50 PM

I have been flat out here but resting now, will do that thing for you to Lea. I miss everyone!

**gorgeous_lea** · September 14th, 2007, 05:09 PM

Been meaning to ask you Jay, how did the visit to your mum go the other day???
Hope you enjoyed your shopping today, i stayed home so i wouldnt spend any money lol

**shazza** · September 14th, 2007, 05:56 PM

Hey Soul Its Much Better We Have A Family Chat And Its All Sorted Out For Today Anyway Have To Go Kate Gots Athletics Catch Up Later
Thanks For Asking

**soul** · September 14th, 2007, 06:05 PM

Sharon I was thinking about you alst night and I remember a time that Hanna who is only 10 was havng a really ahrd week and she and I got into an arguement about her attitude and well, it all got blown out, on her behal;f of course, but she walked right out the door, yep slammed the door and just kept walking, my hubbie had to chase after her and she came bacl screaming at me I just want to die. I had forgotten about that , but your talking about lissa made me remember. So Hon I am soooooo here for you, its hard, but each day can be so different cant it?

Lea, she is being ok now, mum that is, she knows to wacth herself ir she will not see us for a long time again. The alchol is killing her and I cant do a thing.