Jan, are you okay, mate?
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Jan, are you okay, mate?
Yeah..
I am fine thanks Nat. just sometimes we all need to let off a little steam and I have been under a lot of stress lately,few personal attacks on family from very childish workers at my DH factory,where he has worked for the last 16 years. So needless to say we have had to re-evaluate the important things in our life and concentrate on those ie: my beautiful family!! Everywhere here is always water water water...when will it rain?? If their is no significant rain by the end of the year my DH job may be not there. He works at a Dairy factory and we rely on the farmers...anyway we can cross that bridge if we ever get to it.. I think after Dee and having her Dh away atm I should count my blessings tha we are all together..You must be a strong woman Dee cause I need my DH with me everyday.We do everything together. I admire you.
So I think things will pick up just having a bit of a downer atm...sorry if i bring you girls down too..:doh:
Jan xx
Not at all, hun. I hope things start looking up for you soon. These things seem to go in cycles. Your up time will be here again soon. Big hugs to everyone who needs them :)
HIuge hugs from me too jan, stay strong the tide will change....think positive.
I know money stuff is tough for lots of people atm, me included, and when you are poor it just gets you down. I really need to get past all these crazy bills!!!! Bloody rates arrived today !
Hi girls, I started this post yesterday evening, lol.
Natalie, that would be great.
Michelle Yes we have to be committed, I don't need to remind him that he couldn't get the same money he's on here. We are a typical high income high debt family, but we are trying to make a new start and cut down so that we can both enjoy living here. Nursing's shift work and five kids and a shift working husband doesn;t work, especially when we don't have family to back us up. Teaching will allow me to earn a decent wage and be home with the kids for holidays, perfect really. I wish I thought about that when I was 17 I could have done it then instead of Nursing. Oohhhh but I love being a Nurse, so conflicted, lol.
Oh yeah, I'm doing Early Childhood, wanted Primary but they have changed the system here. Early years 0-8 Middle years 9-14 and senior years 15-18. I didn't want to get stuck doing prac at a high school, doesn't interest me, so I thought I'd do Early first and then Middle later on when I'm in service.
Edt: Jan I'll send you some rain vibes. Hang in there mate, and remember that good things come to those who wait. I really hope your DH doesn't lose his job. I am finding it hard without DH here, he is such a hands on dad. He really misses us too, but it is only two years to get ourselves out of the proverbial sh it. Once we cut down the personals he can come down here and earn what ever Because we will own the car have no loans except the house, it will be worth it. I just have to keep busy and time will fly.
Hiya ladies
Jan sorry to hear things are tough atm....like Nat says it goes in cycles and you will be up on top in no time. Keep your chin up.
Dee sounds like you have a great plan. Hope it works out for you.
Storm arrrgh to your 14 yo lol. They get so much harder as they get older dont they. How is Amy settling into high school. Jess is loving it....getting a very conceited though...we are trying to keep her grounded but shes being overwhelmed by male attention. Just will have to keep her very very busy over the next few years lol
Michelle you have a great system in place with the kids..its great to find something that works isnt it.
Hi Nat..hows your beautiful kiddies going.
Tiff how are you settling into working again..you are such a legend!!!!
Weve had lots of changes over the past couple of months. Darrens left his day job to finish his Education degree. Its so great cos we can both return to study and share the care of Sammy and only have my friend watch him for an afternoon a week. Our business is going well so Darren is able to work a few nights a week and keep us afloat...im loving it right now. Weve gone from never seeing Darren to having him around all the time..lol. Sammy is just loving it. Hes Daddy's little shadow right now. It just feels so much better for us making our family the priority.
Jo
Hi girls........can i gate crash here........nat you got me thinking of posting here.
mum to 6 step mum to 2
joshua he passed away from sids at 2 months, he would be 15, jessica 14,sean 11,timothy 10, nicole 9, caitlyn 5 months, step kids neil 11, rebecca9........i had my tubes reversed when i remarried and since i had caitlyn, not sure if we aretrying again, as i just had a chemical pregnancy, but we did want 2 close together, have to talk to hubby ( craig) about that, i sometimes can be a slack ars poster, so i will apoligise now LOL
HOPE TO GET TO KNOW YOU ALL A BIT MORE IN THE COMING MONTHS :)
chrissy
Welcome sweet. You'll love it here. I think we're erratic posters though. Every hour for a couple of days then nothing for a few weeks, LOL.
Mitch, can you tell me more about your point system? I need something like that.
Hi Jo and Dee and Jan and everyone else. Glad everyone seems to be traveeling well :)
Welcome Chrissy! As larger families we often have very little time to post, so you will fit in fine lol
I made a timetable first. So the things I want them to do have been given times eg before school Make bed, 4.30 homework, 5.50 set table 6.25 clear table, 6.30-7.30 showers , 7.30- 8pm clean room, 8pm brush teeth, 8-8.30pm tidy house/read then bed depending on which child it is. I also allotted days to The older 2 for dishwasher and clearing and setting the table. These are all written on a chart for them to look at.
Thwn each child has a sheet which has their indvidual jobs and how much they are worth. So some jobs are worth 1 pt, some 2 some 3 etc. I chose the value according to how hard the job is. then I have the extra point section for the things I ask them to do that are not their jobs, like Jordan and the clothes line, bins etc. I can email you the file of the sheets the kids have if you like. Just so you can see what I did. Josh still has a clean room andthough h has earnt a few less points this past few days it is still working.
Been running around as usual, lunch out on Monday, the day out today buying ribbon and stuff. a million tonnes of washing and the usual house work. Feeling very tired and hot too back to hot here in melbourne.
hope you are all well
I'd really appreciate it hun if you could do that. My email addy is natalie@hotpash.com It sounds like a great plan. And I hear you on the washing, LOL.
have sent it through Nat
Hi Chrissy!!
thanks for the welcome girls, well im figuring everyone is so busy with all the kids so no time to post......
just wanted to say everyone have a great weekend :)
Hi Chrissy,
it does get a bit quiet in here at times Huh?
I'm slack & often forget.
We are hoping to have a working bee at our house this week end, LOL!! Like that's gonna happen.
Who are you inviting to help in the working bee storm? Hope you get somehting done.
HA just the kids ! Bet they all have something better to do.
This place has gotten so tatty these past few months, it's a shame, I told them that it's time for us all to pitch in & fix it up. They all just looked at me, like I was an alien!
im another one that's gonna shift her big butt in here and squash in. Hope thats alright although I dont think I have enough kids yet PMSL
We still dont know if we will have 4 or 5, u/s this afternoon will confirm (we hope) how many. Hoping for just one more, if its 2 then well Jed's just gonna have to renovate again. heheheh.
Atleast I get to post in with osme girls that I dont get a chance to chat to, too often, Nat and Storm and Chrissy.
thanks chickens
xxmaz
Hey Maz!
Welcome, welcome!
When is your scan? Fingers crossed for two from my end, then you can get the twins thread shaking as well!! LOL
omg tiggy behave yourself PMSL - your here too...YAY. Scan is at 4.30 vic time and pooing panties as I type this
Am I just dreaming, or are there children out there who actually do like helping and pitching in? I'm just wondering if I'm hanging out on too many American blogs where the big family thing just seems to so come together for them? And the kids "love hanging out with thier dad and cleaning the car" etc etc.
You're just dreaming Nickel, rofl.
I'm hoping for twins as well Maz. Good luck with the scan today.
Well girls, I haven't posted this anywhere else because I don't really feel comfortable but I'm feeling clucky. And I mean clucky. Zain's only 6 and a half months old, but I can't help it. Am I terribly greedy if I go again? I feel like there are still babies out there waiting for me, lol. The only thing is DH has an absolute phobia about the number 8 so its either going to have to be twins or not my last pg if I go again.
I don't know, I'm just thinking out loud. Maybe I should try fostering. Tiff, how do you find it?
OH Nat - come and join the up the duff club again honey and I know exactly how you feel. Jed has said this one if defently the last but hmmm I would love another but really when do you stop???
Oh jed's home going for me scan
MAUW to all
how did you go maz?
your babies will be the same age gap as mine.
nikki
HI Maz!! How did the scan go?
Nat, what's 1 or 2 more? I feel the same way as you mate.
Hi to everybody!
Maz,
How did the scan go???
Nat, I am feeling the same way!! When do you stop? I've said to myself that a 5th would be the last (and I have a Horrible History anyway). Gemma is only 7 months but I would LOVE another bub. Then I look at the big boys & think, mmmm......
Maz, how was the scan?
Nat, have another one, GO ON! I am very clucky too. It's just in our nature I think. Even though Ivy never sleeps and I run all day with the twins, I still want more! I said that to DH just now and he rolled his eyes. What is that supposed to mean?
Mazzy...where are you??????????????????????????
ETA; was in town today, young castle and happened to walk up Darby Street, found a suburb sign and thought WOW, I'm in Castle territory!
Actually have to be at St Andrew's every Wednesday afternoon and hang in the Civic Park.
*sigh* know the feeling of wanting more. I do too, ut arron had the snip so 4 is the end, it was a very hard thing for me to come to terms with and I was very emotional. I too felt like there was no end to my cluckiness and another wouldn;t necessarily end it.
MAZ....yu tease, we are all waiting waiting waiting for the news!!
Oh girls I so know what you mean. Im starting to think that feeling just never goes away!
Maz we will just have to live through you right now hehe...
Jo
Are you having any more Jo?
Tiff, St Andrew's & Civic Park are about a 3 minute walk from my house...come hang out with me instead!! There is a much nicer park for kids (Centennial) down this way too.
Castle that sounds like a plan!
Michelle, mmm, know what you mean, I had my tubes done and have had regrets ever since. It is like a grieving process. My head says it's the end but my heart says Oh I just want another one!
ok ok...I was sick as a dog after u/s - that beloved dildo cam..grrrrrrrr
egg came form the right ovary as the pg cyst was nice, big and healthy.
Bub was snug in my womb, little ball of snot it is. Still to early to tell how far the chicki said cause under 6 weeks its to hard (blah blah blah) Im just releaved that its not in the tube. Thats the only thing about having a tubal reversal..isnt it storm. I was so scared that it was going to be in the tube this time but NO YAY!!!!!!!!!!!
Not going back until 12 weeks...frige them, cant be bothered going all the blasted time.
AND
Cant tell me if its one baby or 2 babies yet....hmm the plot thickens........
Oh Maz!
So happy it's not tubal, not happy that they couldn't tell if it was one or two!! Did they give ANY hints at all? Did they suggest there MIGHT be two? OH! I was so sure!
loading pic of my pg gut (already) Ive blown out like a ballon.
well Maz that is great news that things are where they should be, hope you do get twins lol
I was hoping when I went for no.3 that I would get twins, cos knew arron couldn't say no to 4 then pmsl but NO! nd then we both thought maybe when we went for 4 would end up with 5 but not to be. I would have loved twins. I am secretly hoping the vasectomy didn't work. I am not on the pill anymore, and if it happens would great. But he had the snip in Oct I have been off the pill now for 2 cycles, not likely that it will happen lol If it does was definitely meant to be.
Tiggy re the grieving, that is exactly what it is too, I guess it shows you too that you are getting older and past an amazing stage of life, and that is sad, happy too, but sad.
Michelle,
I agree. It is the loss of a really big part of womanhood, I think.
Like you, I secretly hoped that the ligation didn't work but I think my obstetrician, in the fear that I would turn around and have another baby, tied them off REALLY tight! LOL.
Post ligation I am having real troubles with pain and bleeding and I want to have it reversed so I don't flood the world every two weeks and can do something other than crawl from the lounge to the bed during that time. If I did have it done though, I know that the longing to have another would be really overwhelming. I don't know if I am in a strong enough position to NOT have another, does that make sense? If I don't have it reversed though, I fear I am looking down the barrel of a hysterectomy. Having said that, I am too scared to even see the doctor, let alone confront him about reversal.
Just go Tiggy, all the prob's you are having is exactly what I was like after my TL, things have been great after the reversal, it's like my fertility is a new toy! LMAO AF only lasts 3 or 4 days now, before it GAWD I think it was only 3,4 days I didn't have it.
Jo, really? More ooooooooooooo.
Yay Maz, KWYM about the tubal, so glad bubba is in the right spot, hmmmmmm not sure how many is there huh? Can't wait til 12 weeks then!
Hi Castle, how ya doin?
HI michelle!!
Gee ladies, why do we all have *that feeling* ? it's very strange, DH & I were talking about 1 more last night, I'm a bit scared after what happened to me after Angel & especially her birth, I never had regular contractions at all & the most painful part of her birth was when she crowned, it was very strange! ( but great too ;))
Storm, I think some women are just 'baby machines' as one of my single child friends described 'people like us'!That's why we all have that feeling, we like babies, they definately bring out the best in me.
The doc is away atm, so I am building up to it, Storm, just gotta get my gumption working. Have become rather cowardly in my old age!
Whoohoo Maz..how exciting.
Tiggy the pain sounds awful you poor dear. Id definately want something done about that. Hope you can work up your courage.
Michelle..no no plans here at all to have anymore...thats why I will have to live through others who do hehe! We were thinking about it for a while but I think sometimes that feeling just stays in certain people so I could end up having 10 kids lol and still want more hehe.
Storm...you can have three big kids and three little kids to even it all out so to speak hehe...my bet your next one is a girl!
Jo