Making a will with a blended family

[BeautifulMadness]

its you're will u do what u want to....and i think its sad that ur DP treats ur eldest DD different. shame on him.

[~clover~]

My DH has told his father he doesn't want anything out of his will.
Out of the 4 kids only the 2 youngest are FILs, but he wants to give them all the same.
DH thinks its not fair & feels like he's taking away from his brother & sister.

But then if something happened to MIL & FIL, I'm pretty sure we'd take responsibility for the others anyway, so the money would go back to them in the end I guess.

BTW - FIL has always treated the kids equally. He is DHs father, & DH & his brother are FILs sons. & he is a very proud father of both of them. Always talking them up. You can just tell when he talks about them that they are just as much his world as his own 2 kids.

[saslia]

DH and I are currently doing our wills and we have come up with is half our assests for each of us to split up. We both had very little when we got together (his ex got most of it when they split up and he had debt. We both worked hard to clear this and get where we are)

So his 5 kids (DD, DS and DSS) get 10% of total from him
and our 2 kids get 25 % of total from me.

So our 2 end up with 35%.

We have done this as DSS will also inherit from their mother so it is different from your situation.

DH did however mention this to his ex ( I had told him not toas it really is none of her business) and she took it that I was ripping her kids off so it may unfortunately get ugly later on.

[ajm mum]

thanks so much for your replys they have helped me and i apriciate your honesty i have made a few decisions and im now thinking more clearly i hope i never have to leave my girls but i hope my will takes care of them as equals. i have talked about equality with my dp but seem to be banging my head against a brick wall!! Its somthing i have to sort out as i do love him but i also love all my girls. its a situation that was raised a few years ago and i think i chose to ignore but has been raised again now with the wills and i think ive realised its not going to change and it hurts more now and makes me see him in a different light

[~clover~]

I'm really sorry, but it does need to be addressed. Your DD wouldn't be feeling to great if she knew all this.
Its not fair on her.