Oh Faye, huge hugs hun I can sympathise as I've also had to deal with an ex from hell. Luckily the kids were a bit older, 13, 17 and 21 (the 21 year old didn't speak to us for 5 years, but that's another story!) and although they lived with their mum, and goodness knows what stuff she was telling them, we hardly had any problems as they had a much better relationship with their dad (still do) than their mum. Big hugs again, perhaps just go with the flow right now and make her feel loved and welcome anytime, I'm pretty sure she's saying those things to please her mum. Plus she's still so young hun, she'll learn to make up her own mind about things as she gets older.