A question about stepchildren.

[Lulu]

She would feel I was undermining her life because she's never had a paying job. A soon as she got out school she got pg. So her life has been Troy and by asking to take him for a weekend would be crushing to her.

Errm, that's a bloody BIG assumption

TBH, I think its best you stay out of it. Support DH totally in HIS quest to make a relationship with his son, that's enough.
It's clear the way you feel about her, and that's another reason for you to stay out of it - otherwise it will be about you and her, not a father and his son.

[Reborn]

Lulu: It wasnt an assumption. She said most that herself to me. The only part I added was the "it would be crushing" part. I have met the woman and she msgs me from time to time. Mainly to say she saw pics of ds on FB that were posted by sil. We've talked about maybe seeing Troy more and she basically said it will never happen.