Thanks Claire_A!!

I have discussed this over and over with DH but I guess because its emotional for both of us the discussion goes nowhere. We end up having to agree to dissagree. He actually challenged me to find 10 families who have the kids sleep on a different level to the parents, then maybe he would reconsider his stance! Thats part of the reason behind this thread! Not looking that good for me!! lol

I dont want to have to move bunk beds, cot, changetable toys etc up and down stairs for a child who is only here 3 nights a week on average; I think i wil just have to let DH sleep upstairs to be closer to the 6 yo who I think should be sleeping alone in her own bunk bed (considering it cost a fortune - u should SEE this kids room! spoilt!)
DH always ies with her until she falls asleep/ sleeps with her - its not a necessity - more of a comfort thing - she CAN go to sleep without - they both just like it that way - OK if it wasnt every single time - I dont want the baby thinking thats what goes on! plus I feel 6 yo needs to gain inderpendance and get to sleep by herself.