It's really hard isn't it. I'm a stepmum and I think you are not being unreasonable at all! I agree with what PacRakMG said. My only advice is, you need to be careful not to put your life and your daughters life on hold to live around your step-kids. Does your dh's ex-wife give 2 thoughts about your daughter when planning things or anything. I bet you no she doesn't, her kids are her number 1 and your daughter needs to be your number 1, cause no one else is going put her first. I know I got to the point I was going to put my kids first above everything, because after seeing how dh's ex-wife treated them, the things my step-kids repeated from her. She wasn't going to give them two thoughts in anything or how anything would effect them. If I put step-kids first and their mother put them first, who was going to put my kids first. After making the change it has made things a lot easier for me and my kids. I leave the step-kids for dh and their mother to worry about, and I am now more just a friend to them, not a mother, they have a mother. I love seeing them and spending time with them but I don't stress about it, I make my own plans just like they do. I know I might sound like a cold hearted cow but this is how I get through it, how I have given myself and my kids the life we should have. You are doing a great job and you should never feel otherwise .
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I'm a stepmum and I think you are not being unreasonable at all! I agree with what PacRakMG said. My only advice is, you need to be careful not to put your life and your daughters life on hold to live around your step-kids. Does your dh's ex-wife give 2 thoughts about your daughter when planning things or anything. I bet you no she doesn't, her kids are her number 1 and your daughter needs to be your number 1, cause no one else is going put her first. I know I got to the point I was going to put my kids first above everything, because after seeing how dh's ex-wife treated them, the things my step-kids repeated from her. She wasn't going to give them two thoughts in anything or how anything would effect them. If I put step-kids first and their mother put them first, who was going to put my kids first. After making the change it has made things a lot easier for me and my kids. I leave the step-kids for dh and their mother to worry about, and I am now more just a friend to them, not a mother, they have a mother. I love seeing them and spending time with them but I don't stress about it, I make my own plans just like they do. I know I might sound like a cold hearted cow but this is how I get through it, how I have given myself and my kids the life we should have. You are doing a great job and you should never feel otherwise
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