What made you decide to add to your family if you thought you had finished at #3??

[Ilithyia]

Sara - thanks for that - I like to hear peoples opinion as I was an only child so my ability to perceive family dynamics for siblings is a bit thwarted especially from a childs perspective.

Glad to help

[Arimeh]

Jaspen - I'm one of 3 as well, and I hate it My DH is one of 3 and didn't really mind it. So I think its the individual personalities of kids than how many you have

[Hannahbanana]

ok so I think I am done at 3.
The more time that passes the less I feel the urge for #4.
And also I think I have made the decision to apply for uni and do nursing/midwifery. By the time I do the 4 years at deakin my youngest will be starting school. If I don't get in then maybe I'll go #4

Ps. Congratulations Mel. I will be watching and waiting for another excellent birth story ro read.

[BekZ]

Hannahbanana - I have 3 girls and although DD3 is a gem I've really struggled at times with having 4 and under 3. DD3 is 13 months now and for at least 3 months I have considered number 4. There are a lot of reasons not to have another baby, mostly practical ones. I constantly question if I can handle anymore and I am getting to the stage of choosing some study path and I am keen to get into shape and gain some of pre baby self back. Another reason is that all my friends kids are a bit older and they are doing social things that I haven't been able to do up until now. DD1 starts school next year and I am looking forward to doing some school help and spending more quality time with DD2 and DD3.....

BUT!!!!

I still have a fire in my heart for one more. I am actually in tears some days thinking that number 4 may not ever happen. So I have decided to wait 6 to 12 months to make the final decision. And this may sound strange but I had a dream about 2/3 weeks ago about my little boy. I don't know if it was a spirit of one of my angel babies or if it was my 4th child. All I can is that my heart was filled with pure love and I can shake the dream..to this day

All the best with your study

[megs]

BekZ,

I just wanted to say that I know how you feel. I have 3 boys, my eldest starts school next year and my baby is about to turn 16 months. Since about his 1st birthday I have been constantly swinging between wanting another baby and sticking with just 3.

As you said practically 3 is far easier but that earning for 4. I too wonder is it partly because I am still hoping for that elusive girl. Anyway just wanted to say hugs, and I have days where I cry over it too.

[BekZ]

Thanks Megs for your reply to you too.

I am really feeling it in the last week. To make matters worse 3 mums announced they are pregnant at dancing today

[megs]

back to you Bek.

I currently have 2 close girlfriends who are weeks away from giving birth. They both have 2 girls and are hoping for a boy. I guess it will be interesting to see what they get and how I feel.

I would have always loved 4 children, in an ideal world I would have had 2 and 2 but wasn't meant to be.

How does your DH feel about going for a 4th?