Cass - I feel like I'm second guessing myself all the time! When she looks at me with 'that' expression - and I know that we get along famously and she really does see me as another figure - I just want to slap the look right off her face and say "don't look at me like that you little s$&@! Of course I don't. I won't with me own either as I don't think it's necessary to discipline with smacking. But I hate that look.

I have always been so careful as a stepmother and we do get along great. But I just find myself resenting her more and more lately. I think because I'm having so much trouble having my own it's worse ATM. Thing is, she is annoying. Mostly I want to do a great job and I'm careful about everything I do and say. But sometimes I just want to scream and tell them both (dsd9 & DH) that it's not their little secret world that I can't come into. I just want my own little monster to stuff up myself. Lol.