hi ladies, thanks SO much for your replies - it is a hard decision isn't it? The Honda Odessey I think has a 60/40 split at the 2nd row of seats (I think) and also not a heap of room in the boot for a running jogger amoung other things! I do like the Mazda CX9 which also has a 60/40 split at the 2nd row of seats but it does have a fair amount of boot space.

the car you speak of aliloops, the SsangYong I have only just heard of ....I shall look it up. thanks! I still like the Volvo the best so far but hate the price tag of nearly 90 thousand!