Baby shower etiquette threads come up on here quite a bit and you know, I've always really hated even just the idea of baby showers, of all kinds, for first children and the whole biz. I think they have the potential to be so incredibly insensitive for people who are struggling though pregnancy loss or infertility issues (and you just don't know what people are going through sometimes, it's such a private thing). Anyway, I wrote a post once about how I felt about baby showers and I think I offended most people, but there were some interesting responses and now I think that I may have been too harsh about baby showers.

Sorry, way too much rambling, but my point is I really think it entirely depends on how you do it, the tone you set. If you really want to celebrate a new life, make that the focus and I'm sure it will be lovely. A lunch out with the girls sounds nice???