Am I being mean? (stock on land)

[nanananny]

Thanks everyone because right now I'm thinking am I the meanest neighbour in the world?!

wouldloveabubba when I say jump I think the fences are just really bad, he put up cheap fences when he subdivded to sell apparently. Although they did jump fences last week when they were being rounded up, they are steers - young bulls so they probably do jump.

I didn't think of the worms too late for that and no I haven't heard of the saying "good fences make good neighbours" but that sounds a good one to me!

Yes we thought of charging aggistment fees :evil:

I think they are at our place because I heard the previous owners fertilised the land so much that the grass is really sweet.

Yeah trust my instincts or ask if they'd like my horse for 6 months.

Plus I think he tried to insult me by saying he thought someone much younger owned the horse and was it my daughters

[squidipa]

look i am not a farming person hubbie tho comes from dairy back ground..

my thought and feelings are this.. No you were right they should remove them they eat loads of food every day NOT your problem. As for fences they should fix them repairs or move them to another paddock. Cows cause a lot of mess and can easily brake things its not your responsibility to be concerned about cows on your property that arnt yours.

[Bathsheba]

I agree with everyone else. it sounds like your generosity is being taken advantage of Redefine your boundaries... short term pain for long term gain! Don't get emotional about it... calmly do what you should do... you are within your rights... don't fall for any emotional blackmail. Be strong, you can do it.

[Nai]

OMG! Charge him aggistment fees for the age comment alone! How rude!

I was going to suggest that you send him a letter saying that you will look after the stock for a fee of $x per week and send a contract to him

[HarveyBub'sMum]

I think this is really rude, ring them and tell them that you've had a good look at your pasture and you won't have the feed for them. Then tell them to come and get them, if they don't, ring the council to come get them. Doesn't sound like you're going to be losing any good relationships!

[nanananny]

Well I just spoke to my husband, we were going to relent and let them stay an extra 3 weeks but after explaining everything to DH properly and quoting "good fences make good neighbours"
and telling him how the wife walked off down my driveway midsentence because I was insinuating they couldn't stay

We are insisting they go tomorrow.

Thanks everyone I think people treat you how you allow them to treat you.

[Bathsheba]

Precisely! well done sweetheart.... be firm but fair and people will respect you for it. You won't necessarily be liked more if you let people walk all over you. I know what it's like living in the country... my family are famers... I know it can be tricky but in this instance you are doing the right thing by reinstating your tangible and non-tangible boundaries!