I haven't posted for a long time, life is pretty busy but every once in a while something comes along and I think I should post and see what others think.

A couple of weeks ago my SIL mentioned to me that they were getting their son a new DS for his birthday and that if we liked my eldest son (6 yrs) could have his old one. I said to her that i'd talk to my husband about it. I discussed it with him and I think we agreed that while there is no harm in him having one he really doesn't need one. We have a Wii and he plays it from time to time (nothing major) and the kids will be getting a computer for Christmas. I personally don't like how unsociable they are, it's my opinion and not the opinion of all I am sure. So anyway DH saw SIL and some stage and told her thank you but no thank you regarding the DS.

This weekend my son went away for the weekend with my DH and his family (SIL's brothers and kids), they got home last night and my son has been given the DS DH claims that they were on their way home and while he was out of the car getting some food my son was given the DS by his cousin. My SIL was in the car knowing fully well our choice in this and when DH returns he feels helpless to say anything. I'm pretty angry. I feel our right as a parent has been totally disregarded, I feel terrible for thinking I just want to take it off him and give it back. I'm not ungrateful but we made a choice here!! Where is the respect? I could never ever do this to a parent be it family or not and if my son did it without me realising I would very quickly do something about it. It's a DS with a handful of games, I don't want my son to think those things are just something you give away like a couple of football cards.

Honestly this SIL does a fair bit that bugs me and this has really impacted a lot of that. I'm just so angry right now. DH doesn't want to do anything because he's worried about what will be said behind our backs... I don't want to cause any issue because my gosh the family has enough right now but who does that?? I feel really bad because i'm so angry when I see my son holding it (which is all he's had a chance to do with it so far) it's not his fault.

Am I just letting my feelings get in the way here??