Thanks everyone. I feel a lot more confident in my choice now

We have asked them to visit us instead and they say they can't leave the dog. It was never a problem before, and it is fine when they are at work so I am sure it is their way of making me know they are unhappy with me.

They won't consider any training. They told me to train my daughter.....

I even offered to come to training as well so I could learn about what was and wasn't ok... But they are flat out refusing

I feel awful. She loves going to see them and they love having her there but I can't be sure that as soon as I leave her there to play they will let the dog out.