i have to say i wouldn't bring it up either. i lived overseas for a number of years and missed out on a few things like this. it is hard & people don't seem to realise that you still very much want to be part of their lives, albeit from a bit of a distance. people always assumed my life was more interesting & that i didn't want to hear about or be involved with things from home. the reality is that it's not like that at all. she's probably just thinking of it from that sort of perspective & that perhaps she doesn't want to make you feel pressured to come back etc.