Common courtesy......

[widdly]

I always offer people with fewer items to go before me int he checkout and they do the same for me, maybe thats cause I live in a country town? Common courtesy seems for the most part to be alive and well in this town

[mummato1]

I am in a country town too.. a town of about 250 people. The example I gave of the older man not holding the door for me while I was holding DS was at our general store!

I was at the airport once with a broken foot on crutches, travelling by myself.. also trying to drag along a huge bag on wheels. Not one person even offered to help me. When I got to check in I even had to lift the bag up by myself, even the staff didnt help. I was in tears by the time I had checked in, I was so upset as I thought I would be ok at the airport as surely someone would give me a hand..

[Cupcake]

If i have a lot and someone behind me has one or two things i'll let them go before me

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I will just say this - living in London, I had strangers help me carry a large, heavy bag up from the tube to the trains. That's LONDON. You expect rudeness there. So for people to not do it anywhere else, especially to someoneon crutches, is just the height of rudeness.

[Leee]

Without giving myself too big a head, I think I'm fairly courteous when out and about. I'll find myself holding doors for others and such (especially my very pregnant DF!). Same goes for on the road, generally I'll keep an eye out for people trying to get in, waiting at a busy intersection etc. Annoys me though when I don't get the thank you wave!

But for me (especially at work) sometimes it goes a little overboard and especially when constantly passing through security doors, when do you hold the door and when don't you? Was it right when you make them run to get through the door? LOL here I go thinking too much into this. Don't even get me started on when and when not to wave!

I really can't handle rude people, they frustrate and annoy me, but being fairly shy I'll rarely make a big deal about it...

[Megan]

It happens quite often around here. I let people in front of me at the supermarket and have been offered to jump in front of others as well.

A few years ago when DH was in hospital for 5 weeks I was having to pay for parking everyday. The tickets were valid for 12 hours so I would always give my ticket to someone else just arriving. Most people were just thankful, but some seemed shocked and didn't know if they should accept or not!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Hi Leee!

With opening doors, I reckon if the door has time to shut before the person arrives, it's OK to let it close. BUT with security doors, they're security for a reason, so I never hold them open unless it's a friend I'm walking with. I don't want to let an unsecured person into a security-protected zone, IYKWIM.

[Leee]

Hi Leee!

With opening doors, I reckon if the door has time to shut before the person arrives, it's OK to let it close. BUT with security doors, they're security for a reason, so I never hold them open unless it's a friend I'm walking with. I don't want to let an unsecured person into a security-protected zone, IYKWIM.

Hi there Lady Zaidie

Yeah that's kinda how I treat it although I can't help but feel guilty even when they are a fair distance away and I let the door close...

[Cassius2]

yeah i find the security door thing always stumps me. especially at DDs kindy. i *know* that i should not let the person behind me in but i tend to i always have palpitations when i do thinking: 'omg, disgruntled parent with a gun' (nothing too dramatic ya know LOL!).

since having had a child i am AMAZED at how people believe that a person with a pram is a huge inconvenience to their day. i have people forever trying to push in at supermarket lines/public transport/getting through doors. it's mind-boggling. the other day for example it was pouring rain in melb (the massive flooding rain). anyway, i was 'lucky' enough to be caught out with DD in the stroller. i needed to get on the tram so folded the stroller up, put the bags on my back and had DD on my hip. all the people on the tram just stood there and watched (reminded me of sheep on the slaughter trucks TBH) as i struggled to get on (because hey, why would you wanna move to let me on??!). and THEY were the ones that had the AUDACITY to roll their eyes at ME?! got some of my own back by slyly running over their feet with the muddy wet wheels and banging the ones that didnt move with the handlebars...oh and they watched as i almost stacked it with DD (because no one offered a seat nearby...one lovely lady did but she was at the opp. end of tram).

grrr. as you can see i am still a *slightly* annoyed pg chick LOL!

[Bathsheba]

My DH would have to be the most courteous person I know (one of the reasons I fell for him) so I witness alot of what has been mentioned because he is doing it all the time. Sadly he doesn't always receive the same in return but that's life I guess... you don't "give" only to receive. I also try to live this way. There is truth to the notion that people in the country are generally more courteous... I put it down to them having to protect their reputations more carefully! It's a big down-side to city living where everyone feels they are more anonymous therefore can "get away" with being rude and discourteous.

With the checkout thing: yes, people have let me through when i have only had a few items... and I do the same for them as long as I don't have a screaming child etc.

[ElleJay]

I always make sure I hold the door open for people - but when I'm trying to manuvere (sp?) a huge pram into a small shop and no-one tries to bother to help (we've got a Subway with a small doorway that the pram only just fits into - its one of my fav places - and there are seats near there door where people regularly are sitting) it makes you really think 'If no-one does it for me, why do I bother?'
If DS is crying in the car, I won't let other cars through, in or out - I just can't tolerate his crying sometimes and its hard to concerntrate if he's crying in the car.
And if I have a huge trolley of things, same as LZ, it depends on how DS is - which, most of the time, he's pretty good when we're at the shops

[ElleJay]

Sorry, double post