I always help clean up, even if its only a small amount. Ds is at the age where he can put away his toys at home so why should it be any different anywhere else. Usually i dont say anything to the host, i just say to ds 'come on Byron, lets pack up a little before we say bye'.

I host my MG once a month and it irks me to no end when i'm left with a huge mess to deal with by myself as NO ONE in my group bothers to even offer. Last time they were all here i was 36 weeks pg and they still didnt offer, grrrrrr (sorry overdue pregnancy rant lol)