DS not invited to friend's birthday party.

[Phteven]

If you are more upset than DS1 I think you should let it go.

[ticklish]

Thanks for the reply Onyx.

I think I will also encourage DS1 to pursue friendships more with the friends who reciprocate his invitations to come to our place for playdates and birthday invitations rather than this boy. Is this unreasonable? DS1 still says he is a good friend though.

[ticklish]

Thanks Black Rose.

DS1's birthday is not until next year but I can't imagine even letting him exclude one of his close playmates!

[Phteven]

I think I will also encourage DS1 to pursue friendships more with the friends who reciprocate his invitations to come to our place for playdates and birthday invitations rather than this boy. Is this unreasonable? DS1 still says he is a good friend though.

The problem seems to be with this boy's parents not the child himself so I would let it be. I try not to get involved with my DS's social lives beyond asking friends for play dates etc when they ask me to.
That said, if he says no to play dates there's no harm in inviting other children who will say yes.

BTW, I'm the parent who never chats much at school. Nothing to do with the other parents who are all lovely people I'm just a tad shy and anti-social (on a good day, on a bad day I'm positively misanthropic).

[shellbell3]

I was going to say too maybe the parents are a bit shy, I know I stand back a bit because the other parents that do chat seem to know each other well.
As for the party its so hard. I would let it go, it is sad tho, I know I feel upset if DD misses a party. But then at the same time we are organising her b'day party and we can't invite everyone and so many people she considers close friends.
Ask a variety of kids over for playdates maybe, mix with different kids.

[MummaBee]

Also it may just be as simple as the parents saying choose 5 friends so the child picks first five that come into his/her head dont take it to heart.

[~ Mylitta ~]

I agree with the previous posters that it is probably easiest to just let it go. But I know in your position it would really eat at me as well because I would just want to know why, lol. I wouldn't ask them about it as such, but perhaps you could just mention to them that your son mentioned that it's their son's birthday soon and that he would like to celebrate it with him, so you would like to invite him over for a playdate. They might open up about the party and you could find that they just totally forgot your son or even thought that he WAS invited (considering the son made the invitations himself...).

[ticklish]

and you could find that they just totally forgot your son or even thought that he WAS invited (considering the son made the invitations himself...).

Mylitta, I think you may have hit the nail on the head seeing that the friend made the invitations himself. The parents may have thought he was invited.