Etiquette Question - You are invited to a 60th at a restaurant, do you expect to pay?

[Coolabahdee]

It would depend what the invitation said!!

If I was invited to go out to dinner, I would expect to be paying for it. I would never assume the hosts were paying, but if it was offered I would accept and perhaps buy a drink or two for them. It could be worded as let take So n So out for her birthday, which to me implies we'll pay our own way and chip in for the Birthday person.

If I was invited to a party I would expect it was already paid for. Like a catered event.

I think it is all in the wording.

EDT: You could word it like this We are taking ......out to dinner to celebrate her birthday and to spend some time with her as she celebrates turning .... WE thought she'd love for her friends and family to celebrate with her, so no presents please as we are all going dutch. Please come, we know she'd love to have you there!!!