Feeling left out

[misty]

Can definitely understand why you feel left out.
On the other hand, it very likely isn't to do with you, but rather they have maybe just 'clicked' and formed a tight friendship. That doesn't mean that they don't value you, just that they are closer still. Sometimes that happens, where two people will get along on a deeper level - it has nothing to do with family or leaving others out or whatever, it's just a personality 'click'. IYKWIM. The probably believe they are including you, by having you there as much as they do, not excluding you by meeting up without you.

[Bloom]

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit better knowing I'm not being silly about it. But that the same time, I think that Misty is right: the two SILs have just clicked and are really close. I can't break into that close relationship (for one I don't have the time!) and it is great that they have each other.

I do try to catch up with them a bit and not get upset when they talk about the others times they see each other/things they did etc.

[Peekaboo]

If you would like to be included more often, could you offer to host once a month or something? Or is it done outside of the home? I would feel left out too, so it's not just you. You say you don't have the time, maybe they sense that too, and that's why invites are few and far between?

[chody47]

I would feel left out too.
My SILs started catching up without me around a year ago and have started acting weird around me since so I can kind of relate. It's not a nice feeling.