i went to my cousin's husbands funeral just a few weeks ago - i was concerned about taking DD, so i asked her for HER take on it. she said exactly the same as the others - seeing a baby reminds people that life is precious and she wanted DD there. we went, and DD was perfect. she was a bit chatty and i felt making too much noise (the set up was attrocious - no speakers etc) - so i had her in a ring sling and just went and stood up the back.

if you're concerned about taking your bub, ask the people closest to the person that passed away. some find it difficult but most will welcome the distraction