She bought them SHOES. You gave her money to clothe the kids. Not sure about you but when I wear clothes I wear shoes too! You gave her the money. You didn't offer her a loan that she had to pay back. You gave her the money. She bought SHOES. Shoes and clothes are interchangeable when it comes to kidlet expenses IMO. In your own words you GAVE her the money to help with a clothes layby. Now me, if she had all the tees and pants the kids needed but they didn't have a pair of runners I'd think it an obvious progression of thought that she get them shoes they need. Even if the kids last a month in little aths, they will use this shoes a hell of a lot more than that. And $100 towards the expense of proper shoes for growing feet isn't that much really.

I know this is a new post and a new topic, and people may bag me out for saying this, but seriously, stop fixating on this stuff! Every post seems the same. I'm sad to say I dont think I've ever seen a post from you that hasn't been in the lifestyle etiquette section questioning the actions of someone, and how you perceive they've done you wrong! You know what, it's fine to be peeved about things - it's normal, especially in a situation like this where in this particular week you could use some extra money, but stop expecting online strangers to validate your unhappiness. Own it. Then move on! Take responsibility so this crap doesn't keep happening to you. If you can't afford to give away money, don't do it! Offer a sympathetic "yeah I understand how hard it is when money is tight" and keep your money yourself. If you don't have the energy to have someone stay with you don't offer - or if they ask, say no! It's not hard. You just say NO. Don't agree to things then get miffed when it doesn't play out like you think it should. You can't control anyone else. You can only control you.

Let it go. Feel good about the fact you helped a couple of kids to get a decent pair of shoes. Move on.