Giving money to family......was this the right thing to do by MIL?

[tofu]

In response to your original, now edited comment to me...

I didn't post to make you feel better. Random strangers online can't make you feel better. Changing your mindset is the only thing that can change the way you feel!

You need to stop stop seeing everything so negatively. Re-frame things so you see the positive instead of the negatives

Instead of "she didn't buy clothes and didn't give us back the money we gave her" try seeing it as "wow, we helped these kids to have shoes that fit and support their feet, and to give them an experience they wouldn't have had otherwise had"

It's not my job to make you feel better. It's not up to any if us to do that. Yes, we can sympathise when things go wrong. Many of us do that for each other regularly. And I'm not averse to having a whinge now and again either. But it's not also not all I do.

If you perceive that everyone is always screwing you over, stop putting yourself in positions where they can do it! Take ownership of your own actions, your responses. See stuff in a positive light instead of always so negative...

Its comments like these and people like you that spur me on and I just got off the phone from MIL and she is giving me the $100 back tomorrow. So I really thank you, your post made me get off the couch and do something about it! And, may I remind you, that you don't have to reply to my posts NOR do you need to read them. Kindly block me because your comments really grate me to know end. But I am happy now I have my $100 back and I won't be helping MIL again. You don't know my MIL and you don't know the children. This is all shortlived. I will give them a month until they are bored with this and will want something else. The bulk of our money goes to children in need and I am happy to continue this. I support 3 Charities for children overseas. At the moment I am buying Christmas gifts for children overseas. I will not give to spoilt children and incompetent grandparents.

[BrightSparkles]

Let's play nice..

[Astrid]

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