What an awful experience for you. I would give up my child's seat to ANY adult but would be outraged if I was approached in the way you were. How extremely rude of that lady and to be honest I don't think I would have been able to contain myself until the train stopped, you did well. I would be ringing V-Line and putting in a formal complaint, not sure whether they have cameras, I hope they do, she should be charged with assault.
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Poor you Smiles.
I actually see alot of this happening in Syd as well. Like school kids with massive back packs being YELLED at to get off the seat, even though I STRESS there are other empty seats on the train (but ones in the middle).
Sometimes elderlies need to show respect to get respect. No one would deny them a seat if they asked nicely.
I would have been very peeved if someone gave me that sorta attitude esp on a day where it was suppose to be a fun family outing.
If someone told my 7 y.o. to get off a seat and wasn't elderly I would have said No. If they want a seat they can have mine but I would have also made her ask nicely and then I would have stood very close to her in the aisle LOL. And y'know what? I'd be quite happy to pay for an adult seat for my children and show them that we have done so. I think its dangerous for children under a certain age to stand. As for the altercation I would have more than likely acted in the same manner, pointed out the cameras in the vicinity and told her I would be making a police report.
Its not hard to show some manners. I hate it when people automatically assume because a certain demographic has given them grief in the past that they automatically treat them all with contempt. Its disgusting.
I can't believe that womans behaviour, esp shoving you like that, god I think I would've turned around and shoved her back, good on you for being the bigger person.
There are ways to ask for things, all she had to do was ask in a nice manner.
I wonder too about the children and seats because long trips they can't stand up and I couldn't see my 3 yr old staying on my lap for a whole journey.
Yes what an awful experience for you and your family to go through. That lady should be disgusted in herself for the way she spoke to your DP, and for the way she spoke to you and for pushing you!
I know on buses here they have cameras but they are never any use, i was verbally abused and actually assaulted by a group of boys on a bus, they were after my brother and because i was sticking up for him i got stuck in the middle, mind you it was a group of 6 boys and the bus driver just sat there as i was being pushed and even slapped across the face. Nothing was ever done, i rang Action buses and made a complaint against the bus driver and i never got a reply back.
In my honest opinion you should not feel obliged to give up your DD's seat if the person is not pregnant, elderly or disabled it should be up to your discretion or if the person asks in a polite manner. People need to realise they dont get what they want by causing a scene or being down right rude!
I remember one time just after my SIL had her 3rd child we got on a bus it was very packed and in the reserved seats were a group of teenage girls, they saw my SIL with a baby in a sling and they ignored her and continued to talk, i thought it was the most rudest thing i had ever seen they were going to let a woman with a new born baby stand on a bus! so i walked over and said im sorry but you dont look disabled, elderly or even pregnant how about let my friend here sit down.. one of them started to give me a smart ass comment back and i just lost it i said "SHE HAS A BABY, LET HER SIT DOWN!!" the girls soon got up and let her sit down of course started mouthing off to themselves about me but i didnt care. Bus drivers sometimes drive crazy and i didnt want her to slip and risk causing her baby any harm.
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