How do you deal with 'difficult' mothers in law?

[Phteven]

I moved 300 km away. Life is much easier with a buffer zone.

[Cassius2]

we live on the other side of the world lol. BUT i do feel your pain. when we visit it is awful. like you i have tried to see beyond the immediate bad behaviour, insensitivity etc, but far out there is a limit! i let her know. rarely in confrontation, but more often with pulling her up if the judgement train is powering along too far/fast or if she is trying to instil bad body image or criticism on myself or the kids ITMS. i found it hard (as we also have language barriers that needed to be overcome) but i have now drawn a line in the sand and it has helped me know how much i am willing to accept ITMS.