I just have to get this out!

[Kazzo]

I don't think it is a simple as she asked and they answered. Blondie explained how it is normally with her group of friends. Okay, maybe she has learnt that she will need to find a better way to ask these friends, but if they had of said, yeah bring a case of beer, a bottle of bourban or anything more expensive would everyone still think since she asked and they answered that she should have to be happy with the answer.

[Phteven]

I don't think it is a simple as she asked and they answered. Blondie explained how it is normally with her group of friends. Okay, maybe she has learnt that she will need to find a better way to ask these friends, but if they had of said, yeah bring a case of beer, a bottle of bourban or anything more expansive would everyone still think since she asked and they answered that she should have to be happy with the answer.

I don't drink anymore but if I did I would find it inconceivable to turn up for a party/gathering without a bottle of something. I haven't drunk for 7 years but I still get the urge to drop into the bottle shop to grab drinks if I'm on the way to see people.
I hate arriving at someone's house empty handed. Even if they expect nothing I still have an expectation upon myself to brinf something.

[maybebabymay]

Im hearin ya blondie, that's how our gatherings work too!

[Kazzo]

I don't drink anymore but if I did I would find it inconceivable to turn up for a party/gathering without a bottle of something. I haven't drunk for 7 years but I still get the urge to drop into the bottle shop to grab drinks if I'm on the way to see people.
I hate arriving at someone's house empty handed. Even if they expect nothing I still have an expectation upon myself to brinf something.

Yes but again that is your situation and how you and your friends work. Blondie explained the way it is with her friends and how they normally do their get togethers.

[Riss10]

If it was a big group, then I think it is reasonable to ask guests to bring something. It is very costly catering.

But for 4 people, I agree with you. It is rude to ask someone to bring a whole chicken!

[Boo Boo]

yes, IF the chicken is to be the main part of the meal then it is rude to invite guests over and then have them cater the main part of the meal - seriously who does that??? C'mon....you ask someone over to your house for dinner and then get them to bring the main course...seriously wacko....so maybe the chicken will be ...ummmmm....I don't know....I am waiting to find out what all the dishes that made up dinner were until I make judgement. So, in my Rule Book...if a host said no, please don't bring anything, then I would take along, a bottle of vino and some flowers and some yummy homemade choccies, but, if they asked, I would go with the request of what they wanted, never been asked to bring along the main dish though.....waiting......