TFB - hope you didn't think I was insinuating that she might not be a totally loving parent. I wasn't thinking that at all. I know that with some little ones it's just the way it is and there's not much you can do. I like your idea of suggesting a cuppa too. And, FWIW, I can say (from reading your posts) that you are a totally loving parent who offers the most welcome and, what should be, obvious advice.

I will be doing some covert "hello-ing" on the weekend - see if there are some fellow parents of young children who might like to mingle.