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I had dd unexpectedly at 30 weeks. My parents both rushed to the hospital to be with DH and I - was a small local hospital that generally unless your 38 weeks and easy you don't deliver there. I loved the fact mum and dad were both there as they kept us together and made sure we ate etc until we transferred to another hospital an hour away. Each day mum would check in on me and dad would call in after work (he worked about 15 minutes fro the hospital). The NICU and SCN would always let them in. We had a few friends who came and saw us and i was grateful for the distraction at times but they understood if i was 'elsewhere'.

DH's parents and family on the other hand. I am still hurting 2 years on that DH parents left on a 3 week motorbike trip the day after DD was born and never saw here for the entire time or even bothered to make sure we were all ok - instead gave DH a list of jobs to do. They live around the corner from us. DH sister came once and that hurts as i felt i never had there support when we needed it.

I guess i am saying that i would want at least family there so i knew i had support but also DH had it. DH to this day is so thankful my parents came and helped with everything and is hurt by his family. Even when mentioned he gets told 'well we had a holiday booked'