Hi ladies,

I am just wondering if someone can share some advice please.

My mother, for those that don't know, isn't very well (she's under palliative care for lung cancer) - however she keeps surprising everyone (Dr's and family) how long she has managed to hold on for. She has her up and her down days etc, as can be expected.

My dad keeps asking me to go over to his place to read some info he has picked up about funerals lately. I am kind of avoiding it - and almost feeling resentful that he brings up the topic often (well 2 - 3 times each week for the last fortnight).

So the other night he brings up the topic again whilst we were waiting to see mum at the hospice and I said that I'd like the hospital chaplain to perform the service as she actually knew mum (from the hospital she was at prior to being transferred) - and went and spoke to her often etc, prayed together etc. This hospital chaplain is absolutely lovely and told me out of ear shot from mum that she can perform services etc. Dad seemed happy with that, no worries.

Today he asks me about picking up the funeral stuff again.

I'm so over being put in this position. Mum is alive - I feel dad should ask her what she would like in her funeral - and pose it to her 'just in case something happens' IYKWIM? I don't like talking about her like she has passed on already...

What can I do? What should I do?