Outing Another's Pregnancy on Facebook

[MusicLover83]

I think we all agree that it's wrong to mention someone else's pregnancy on facebook if they themselves hasn't. This is something that has happened to a few of my friends/colleagues.

Today I logged on to see a Colleague1 write something along the lines of
"Can I say congratulations yet? I am guessing by now yes. So big congratulations and all the best!"
on Colleague2's wall.

I was tempted to leave a comment like
"Maybe if you're not sure you could send a Private Message instead?"
but I've decided to ignore it and just leave it to Colleague2 to deal with.

I feel sorry for Colleague2 if she isn't quite ready to tell the facebook world yet or if she is no longer pregnant.

Has anyone outed your pregnancy/exciting-secret-you're-not-ready-to-share-yet on facebook?

It happened to another friend of mine when she got engaged, too.

I know now that I when my time comes I will explicitly state "please keep it off facebook until WE are ready!"

[~Hestia~]

This recently happened to friend of mine, but she was away and couldn't delete it or anything! I felt sorry for her as she was only 5 weeks but now everyone knows.

It also frustrates me when people announce your birth on FB before you've had a chance to break the news yourself - happened to me! Next time I'm turning my wall off

[Party-of-five]

oh I think that would be horrible
there are some things that should just go with out saying

[toomanyshoes]

it infuriates me but to be completely honest if I hadn't have struggled with so much m/c's I might not have given something like that a second thought and done it myself.

but yes very very rude.

[Beautiful Disaster]

Next time I'm turning my wall off

how do u do that? i can see i will have this exact drama

[Maruschke]

It also frustrates me when people announce your birth on FB before you've had a chance to break the news yourself - happened to me! Next time I'm turning my wall off

I saw this happen very recently and a friend of the new mother gave them a huge talking to. It is so rude.

[~clover~]

I had it happen to me when DD3 was born... by the one friend who insisted noone was to put anything on fb about her baby after the birth.

[CharlieBrownGirl]

I've had a few people disappear from FB (deactivating their page) until they are ready to tell people. It happens so often now that I kind of figure it is happening before they come out at 12 weeks.

[MrsB26]

I have accidently posted something on someones wall It was even someone here on BB
Lucky she must have been online and saw it quickly to delete it. I honestly wasnt thinking at all - she was into her 2nd tri and was 'out' on BB but not FB yet.
I didnt actually post a congrats on the baby kinda post but something pregnancy related which still would have told people she was pregnant if they didnt already know. Sorry again PB if you're reading this xxx

[~Hestia~]

how do u do that? i can see i will have this exact drama

If you go into your Privacy settings, there is a tick box for allowing friends to post on your wall. If you untick it, no one can write on your wall! That should be enough but if not there are probably other things that can be fiddled with! Check out the customise settings options in the Privacy section

[Beautiful Disaster]

If you go into your Privacy settings, there is a tick box for allowing friends to post on your wall. If you untick it, no one can write on your wall! That should be enough but if not there are probably other things that can be fiddled with! Check out the customise settings options in the Privacy section

Thanks so much

[Calluna]

I have a FB "friend" that very often has status' up about friends being UTD or just had a bub and everytime I read one I wonder if they were ready to share the news...
Hasn't happened to me but I can certainly understand why people get upset! What I cant understand is why others think they have a right to announce other peoples special news! So very rude.

[*Sparklez*]

i have had that every pregnancy ive ever had and lets just say now i dont tell anyone till im ready to tell everyone..

I actually find this quiet rude... The fact that someone can do something like that without even bothering to pick up the phone or even waiting till they see someone face to face annoys the crap out of me...
Not just pregnancies but anything that is such a big decision and joyous occaision should not be someone elses news to advertise...

[thepixie]

Not on facebook but my brother told my father and stepmother. When I asked him about it he said 'no-one told me not to tell them" well don't you think that since you found out from someone else (ie. Mum) you might at least wait until you heard it from me?