Oooh ladies can I sit at your feet and learn from the masters? Some great ideas here! Look forward to other's solutions.
What I find hard is the implicit criticism of other people's parenting - if they try to do something with your child and you tell them not to, they sometimes take it as you saying that all parents who do that with their children are bad parents, know what I mean? I don't care what other people choose to do (within reason of course), but that doesn't mean I will let them do that with my child.
I also find it hard when people don't get subtle hints, and so force you to be more blunt than you feel polite being!
Dummy, that's a hard one... I like Audax's response.
I don't think I'd care about offending if someone called my child a horrible name.
Disciplining, I actually don't mind this at all. I am of the opinion it takes a village to raise a child and it is extremely important that children learn to listen to all adults not just their parents. And sometimes it actually makes my life easier. But if I'm there and I'm handling it and someone steps in I would politely tell them to but out. But generally I actually welcome it. I'm one of those people that thanks the elderly lady for reminding my child of their manners in the store. And when I'm in someone else's house well their house, their rules (unless it's a rule of mind that gets carried everywhere )
Pretty much what had already been said except for one thing. I would not bother backing up anything with evidence/studies etc unless I was pushed. Generally just a "we don't do that" or a " we prefer to do this" is enough, if they don't get that then add the reasons why. I found if I said "we don't do that. This study found ......" really just got people annoyed, argumentative and they probably even felt insulted.
Some great ideas here! Look forward to other's solutions.
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